22 and never dated a girl yet, am I weird?

[kiss_ma_ass99]

no nt at all

[amethysthuy]

Trust me your not weird, you'r still 21? thats young!!
I would start to worry if im maybe like 25 and never hug or dated a girl.
what you do is pretend to trip over on a girl.... then use your chance to hug her.... if possible a kiss just like in the movies!!!  Hahahaa  theres your first hug and a kiss for the bonus !!
jokz hehe

You'r just worrying too much!

[yinkseo]

I think it's okay, I'm in college and I know SO MANY people who hasn't dated yet! I think it's a matter of choice, dont feel pressured to just because other people are doing it.  Some people are just not mentally ready for a relationship.  You're only 21! Still many years to come... Quality over quantity!

[rinne]

If you feel you are ready to date then I say just throw yourself out there!..
hahah.. that sounds weird.. well what I mean is just go out there and have fun !
Meet new people and friends in every opportunity you can and just be friendly and fun ~
Cause I mean.. even IF you didn't have the looks.. if you had the personality.. people would still be attracted to you.. and I'm not saying this to not be shallow. I've met tons of people who have average looks.. but because they're so outgoing and funny and seem like such a genuine person, I feel more attracted to them. I find lots of girls like guys that are funny and have a sense of humour.. and can socialise. =)

[Krappyappy]

it never hurts to learn how to flirt and talk with girls.

being 21 and not having dated doesn't make you weird, it puts you in danger of being with the wrong person. you will be more likely to go along with the first girl who shows interest in you, regardless of whether she fits you.

go out there and force yourself to talk to women. learn to be funny and confident. you will attract more women, and will be able to choose who you end up with, instead of being chosen.

[amethysthuy]

Don't worry about it, your time will come!!!

[Lychee]

LOL I'm 21 in a month and I haven't dated a guy or girl. LOL.

[Pinkyy]

21 ... You're not weird at all ... I think that there are a lot of boys who has never dated a girl before at that age ,, they just don't dare to come up for it =) At the other side it depends ... As a boy I think you have to take the initiative ... to take the first step towards a girl ,,

If you're a real HUNKK you wouldn't have that problem .. you probably would have all the girls kneeling for Uu XD But I guess that's not the case here ... Don't be afraid, girls may be very picky but just show them you're good sides ... And don't feel to insecure about yourself ,,

If you really love a girl .. just go for it!  If you haven't found the right one ,, Don't panic ... Just wait, and someday you will find the one

[aznj50]

I am starting to worry about myself. I didn't even go to senior prom (Big deal in America). I never hug a girl. Dammit, I feel like I am the guy in "40 years old Virgin" . ..

So my question, am I a weirdo? Should I try harder to flirt or something? By the way I don't know how to flirt! XD

You never hugged a girl rofl!!!!

okay serious now.
Dude just talk to girls its not hard. Don't come out desperate they can smell it. Just flaunt some cash you bagged yourself a gold digger. Here a tip meeting girls, join clubs, volunteer, take dance classes, and meet them through friends and family. Thats last resort friends/family.

you can always flirt with every waitress and boba counter girl. Thats what I do. Trust me when you work at boring place, its god send that someone talks to you. Plus all the girls are after me at my work. >.<

The key is flaunt some cash, be average looking, and nice.

[heimdall]

21 and no gf is not weird... well, not good either. I noticed that my friends who didn't have any real girlfriend or boyfriend (=>and no sex) by 20 aren't very relaxed)
I can't say I've been in the same situation as you but I think I went through several not really short periods when I had similar issues and questions as you - so here's my humble idea, a try to inspire you

I think we people can learn almost everything, even if we think it can only be born with it - at least for me, life had to teach me completely everything - this means it's pretty good to go through a period of broken heart, of intense love, intense sex, various relationships, both long and short - because if you are at least a little bit perceptive and willing to learn, with every relationship behind you the next one can (not necesarilly will) be better... because we can learn from our mistakes. And that's why you should get a girl soon ... love and relationship are not the same and there are some pretty painful storries about two people loving each other but breaking up anyway...
Love not only has that nice part about two souls and minds unifiyng, about flying butterflies and stupid cute dreamy looks on the faces of each other when the lovers look in each other's eyes, there's also the part of love which leads to unification of bodies. this part is called the chemistry. When there isn't at least a little piece of both aspects in a relationship, no matter if in short or a long one, it's too bad!!! And both of you need to feel the romantic feeling and the chemistry. The good thing is you can help a girl to feel both of these by... well, by what i am going to write about:)
 
Skills - communication is partially a skill as well as humor and it can be learned (don't even try to disagree;) ... a few people around me - me unfortunatelly included - tried many times to look damn smart, funny, sexy and basically as the best man in the city. In 90% we all looked as complete idiots. In 10% we were seen as gods - because the girls were sort of... dumb´... or horny... anyway. The moral is try to read up and learn in praxis something about communication and acting like that can be a little bit unnatural for you, but it's worth learning it!!! But as soon as it's too unnatural, just don't do it. Forget flrting. I still don't understand exactly what it is, but for me it's something like being confident, funny and not taking too much care about what the girl is thinking about you - that's why a (funny) joke about her can help.

Time - Anything you do, anything you want to "achieve" takes time. If you want to have a good friend, it takes time you have to spend with him. If you want to be strong and healthy (and handsome...) you work out, if you want to be educated you study... So just spend time around girls - with your friends and gradually find female friends - if you don't go out very often you should ask some of your friends to take you out when they go somewhere and begin to go out more often... you can meet new people, new friends and girls - both is good -get it? or you can meet girls online. it's sort of lame but whatever, you can get some really weird picture about dating but at least some picture about how it all works before you are together and how you usually begin. It's also a good place to train your confidence. Before I have found gf I'm with now, I was single for more than a year - and one of the main reasons was that I was not even trying and giving all the good girls around me that I wanted enough time. when I met a girl, I let her know after a week or so, sometimes even longer time. when we had a date, next time we met was after several weeks - I was simply saying to myself "I'm busy"...which was true but it's all matter of priorities - but we often think love has to come itself - nonono, you have to help it at least a little bit  
 I remember a sad story where the two actors, me and my good friend were into each other. I didn't make the next step because I was shy and because all I was trying to see was her flaws so I was telling myself I should wait for somebody better - which was just an excuse not to make any effort, not to overcome shyness and why to be lazy and deep inside I knew it  . I also didn't want to spoil the friendship and thought she didn't like me. Later on she told me "I know I never had any chance with you" ... I replied "Neither had I with you" . I was damn surprised when she told me "that's not true".  soooo - don't use all the stupid excuses like "I don't have time", "she's not good enough (when deep inside you know that she has her flaws but she's great)" , "she doesn't want me because...", "she's not my type (when you want her and just try to lie yourself so that you don't have to try)" ... simply try, try try when you feel you should and spend time!!!

Inside - It seems to me you don't have much of confidence and you are very shy. And you probably know it won't better just by reading a comment like "don't be shy", "be courageous" "just don't worry", "go for it" or something like that. nonono it doesn't help. I can't say I'm an incarnation of bravery but it used to be much worse. Guess what - becoming courageous takes time. Just bite yourself and do a big big heroic thing such as approaching a girl, even if she thinks ur a **** in the end if you have balls for this - it will give you a little little piece of courage. If not, approach them online, meet people and try to speak to people, boys and girls. Try bungee jumping. Do something that can have pretty bad consequences ( I did when pretty often happened when I was drunk as hell:) ), do something irresponsible or dangerous, do something that just appears in your mind - try to be spontaineous. you'll be slowly noticing you are beginning to like yourself, your life and becoming confident.......   And don't forget to be always real to yourself and to other people, try to find out who you really are deep inside (so many people just don't have an idea who they are... saaaaaad!!!) and become it - and stand by your ideas and opinions if you really believe them and if they are not just a stupid pose. even if a girl disagrees with you, she'll respect you more for having an opinion and backbone, believe me;)

All the superficial stuff - looks matters. Girl's looks matters for a lot for guys, even if they say it's not true, such as me ... and our looks matters for girls, too... a little bit less i think, but still...     face it, we human can be deep as hell, but somewhere inside there is a superficial part) Sooooo.... work on your style and clothes and accessories so that they look good and match your personality (my cousin makes good money by selling clothes and is really into fashion and understands it. he always looks great. when I put his clothes on, I look like a retard. vice versa:) )... if you don't have a good body posture and no muscles at all, you should work out, if you are too fat, you should not go to diet, but eat less and start to workout and run regulary and don't eat anything sweet or fat in the evening. get a good hairstyle and learn how to keep it good looking - btw this is still a big mystery for me 

This is the best way I know how to become confident, real and funny... and this leads to a lot of people being around you;)


PS. Short note about love. Don't act like you are someone you are not. Even if the girl doesn't see through it, she'll end up loving that fake image and not you. If YOU want to be loved, you have to show your true self from the beginning - and if two of you fall in love, you can be sure she loves you for what you are and not for something you are not.


aww this is f*****g long
it should count for 5 msgs!!!

[simple-sKu]

21 and no gf is not weird... well, not good either. I noticed that my friends who didn't have any real girlfriend or boyfriend (=>and no sex) by 20 aren't very relaxed)
I can't say I've been in the same situation as you but I think I went through several not really short periods when I had similar issues and questions as you - so here's my humble idea, a try to inspire you

I think we people can learn almost everything, even if we think it can only be born with it - at least for me, life had to teach me completely everything - this means it's pretty good to go through a period of broken heart, of intense love, intense sex, various relationships, both long and short - because if you are at least a little bit perceptive and willing to learn, with every relationship behind you the next one can (not necesarilly will) be better... because we can learn from our mistakes. And that's why you should get a girl soon ... love and relationship are not the same and there are some pretty painful storries about two people loving each other but breaking up anyway...
Love not only has that nice part about two souls and minds unifiyng, about flying butterflies and stupid cute dreamy looks on the faces of each other when the lovers look in each other's eyes, there's also the part of love which leads to unification of bodies. this part is called the chemistry. When there isn't at least a little piece of both aspects in a relationship, no matter if in short or a long one, it's too bad!!! And both of you need to feel the romantic feeling and the chemistry. The good thing is you can help a girl to feel both of these by... well, by what i am going to write about:)
 
Skills - communication is partially a skill as well as humor and it can be learned (don't even try to disagree;) ... a few people around me - me unfortunatelly included - tried many times to look damn smart, funny, sexy and basically as the best man in the city. In 90% we all looked as complete idiots. In 10% we were seen as gods - because the girls were sort of... dumb´... or horny... anyway. The moral is try to read up and learn in praxis something about communication and acting like that can be a little bit unnatural for you, but it's worth learning it!!! But as soon as it's too unnatural, just don't do it. Forget flrting. I still don't understand exactly what it is, but for me it's something like being confident, funny and not taking too much care about what the girl is thinking about you - that's why a (funny) joke about her can help.

Time - Anything you do, anything you want to "achieve" takes time. If you want to have a good friend, it takes time you have to spend with him. If you want to be strong and healthy (and handsome...) you work out, if you want to be educated you study... So just spend time around girls - with your friends and gradually find female friends - if you don't go out very often you should ask some of your friends to take you out when they go somewhere and begin to go out more often... you can meet new people, new friends and girls - both is good -get it? or you can meet girls online. it's sort of lame but whatever, you can get some really weird picture about dating but at least some picture about how it all works before you are together and how you usually begin. It's also a good place to train your confidence. Before I have found gf I'm with now, I was single for more than a year - and one of the main reasons was that I was not even trying and giving all the good girls around me that I wanted enough time. when I met a girl, I let her know after a week or so, sometimes even longer time. when we had a date, next time we met was after several weeks - I was simply saying to myself "I'm busy"...which was true but it's all matter of priorities - but we often think love has to come itself - nonono, you have to help it at least a little bit  
 I remember a sad story where the two actors, me and my good friend were into each other. I didn't make the next step because I was shy and because all I was trying to see was her flaws so I was telling myself I should wait for somebody better - which was just an excuse not to make any effort, not to overcome shyness and why to be lazy and deep inside I knew it  . I also didn't want to spoil the friendship and thought she didn't like me. Later on she told me "I know I never had any chance with you" ... I replied "Neither had I with you" . I was damn surprised when she told me "that's not true".  soooo - don't use all the stupid excuses like "I don't have time", "she's not good enough (when deep inside you know that she has her flaws but she's great)" , "she doesn't want me because...", "she's not my type (when you want her and just try to lie yourself so that you don't have to try)" ... simply try, try try when you feel you should and spend time!!!

Inside - It seems to me you don't have much of confidence and you are very shy. And you probably know it won't better just by reading a comment like "don't be shy", "be courageous" "just don't worry", "go for it" or something like that. nonono it doesn't help. I can't say I'm an incarnation of bravery but it used to be much worse. Guess what - becoming courageous takes time. Just bite yourself and do a big big heroic thing such as approaching a girl, even if she thinks ur a **** in the end if you have balls for this - it will give you a little little piece of courage. If not, approach them online, meet people and try to speak to people, boys and girls. Try bungee jumping. Do something that can have pretty bad consequences ( I did when pretty often happened when I was drunk as hell:) ), do something irresponsible or dangerous, do something that just appears in your mind - try to be spontaineous. you'll be slowly noticing you are beginning to like yourself, your life and becoming confident.......   And don't forget to be always real to yourself and to other people, try to find out who you really are deep inside (so many people just don't have an idea who they are... saaaaaad!!!) and become it - and stand by your ideas and opinions if you really believe them and if they are not just a stupid pose. even if a girl disagrees with you, she'll respect you more for having an opinion and backbone, believe me;)

All the superficial stuff - looks matters. Girl's looks matters for a lot for guys, even if they say it's not true, such as me ... and our looks matters for girls, too... a little bit less i think, but still...     face it, we human can be deep as hell, but somewhere inside there is a superficial part) Sooooo.... work on your style and clothes and accessories so that they look good and match your personality (my cousin makes good money by selling clothes and is really into fashion and understands it. he always looks great. when I put his clothes on, I look like a retard. vice versa:) )... if you don't have a good body posture and no muscles at all, you should work out, if you are too fat, you should not go to diet, but eat less and start to workout and run regulary and don't eat anything sweet or fat in the evening. get a good hairstyle and learn how to keep it good looking - btw this is still a big mystery for me 

This is the best way I know how to become confident, real and funny... and this leads to a lot of people being around you;)


PS. Short note about love. Don't act like you are someone you are not. Even if the girl doesn't see through it, she'll end up loving that fake image and not you. If YOU want to be loved, you have to show your true self from the beginning - and if two of you fall in love, you can be sure she loves you for what you are and not for something you are not.


aww this is f*****g long
it should count for 5 msgs!!!

i think that  was a nice essay

[sorturtle]

i wouldn't worry about it... from my experience.. i rather have great great friends around me than have a bf that breaks up with me and never talks to me again..lol...

[heimdall]

i wouldn't worry about it... from my experience.. i rather have great great friends around me than have a bf that breaks up with me and never talks to me again..lol...

it's probably better to have friends... although in my experience quite a few of my freinds are not available since they're with their gfs....(than they break up and return to us... )    it needs both friends and girlfriends i think

[cherrypicker]

dont try to be someone you are not.. just be urself and the right person will come when it's time

[simple-sKu]

i wouldn't worry about it... from my experience.. i rather have great great friends around me than have a bf that breaks up with me and never talks to me again..lol...

so i assume you don't have a bf

[levitage]

it's nt weird... i am 18 and single.. it jus mean you haf nt meet the right one yet

[ObiWong]

haf nt

[hunni_boo]

haha dun worry thats not wierd at all guess you jus haven't found the right one yet...dun give up u tho =] wish u all the best ^^

[snowpota]

I never date for 22 years of my life, most of the time i spend on my computer at home, after 1 month move from home because of school, and WIPS a girlfriend.

My suggestion movie out, if u still stay at home, lol .

[edenraid]

Its not really weird that u didnt dated a girl before,you just have to believe in providence and try to pluck out some courage mingle with more girls..Its Life